About Finding True Masculinity

Meet Frank

Resilience, Fortitude, and a Passion to Succeed

Hi, I’m Frank! Welcome to my corner of the internet, where I share my journey as an FTM man who has navigated a challenging past to embrace a fulfilling and authentic life.

Through this blog, I aim to create a supportive space for transmasculine folks seeking guidance, connection, and empowerment. Here, you’ll find resources, information, and insights designed to uplift and inspire those on similar paths. Together, we can foster a community that celebrates our unique experiences while providing the tools necessary to thrive in our identities. Join me as we break down barriers and build a brighter future for transmasculine men everywhere.

Why I created FTM
Frank with his dog Mario
Frank & MarioA little of the life behind FTM.

Throughout my life I have had many labels: junkie, nutcase, heathen, and rebel to name a few. And while these labels may be accurate, I don’t live my life defined by them. However, all of these labels and the cumulative effect of my life experiences have helped shape me into the man I am today so it is impossible for me to shy away from any of it. So, throughout this blog, I will be candid regarding my checkered past that includes criminal activity, time spent in institutions (behavioral health centers, drug and alcohol rehabs, and jail), homelessness, as well as my current struggles with addiction and mental illness.

The purpose behind this space

Why I Created Finding True Masculinity

“I created Finding True Masculinity because I wanted to build something useful out of what I’ve lived through.”

Being trans intersects with every other part of our lives: our health, relationships, finances, housing, and sense of belonging. For me, that has meant navigating transition alongside addiction, mental illness, and the work of building a more stable life. Those experiences shape the questions I ask and the resources I think deserve attention.

When you’re dealing with several things at once, finding help can become another exhausting task. You might need clear information about testosterone, help changing your documents, an affordable therapist, or somewhere to ask a question you’ve been carrying around for months. I wanted FTM to make those next steps easier to find.

I also wanted room for honest conversations about the parts of life that can be uncomfortable to discuss. Recovery, shame, uncertainty, setbacks, and starting over all belong here. People deserve support while they’re figuring things out, including when their lives are complicated or messy.

That’s why FTM brings together personal writing, practical guides, community connections, and resources that extend beyond transition itself. My experience gives me a perspective to share, and other people bring experiences I can learn from. Making room for both matters to me.

My hope is that you leave this site with something you can use: an answer, a resource, a question to bring to your doctor, or a connection that helps you feel less alone. Being able to turn something difficult from my own life into something useful for someone else is a large part of why I keep doing this.

Lived experience

The Experiences Behind the Work

Starting Transition at 30

When I began transitioning at 30, I hoped I would finally be happy. I was sober, but I was still incredibly depressed, and I couldn’t understand why sobriety hadn’t taken that sadness away.

My self-esteem was low. I wanted to feel confident and comfortable in my body. At that point, I couldn’t see how I would keep living if I didn’t transition. Taking that step felt necessary to give myself a future.

What I learned was that I still had other work to do. My trauma needed attention. My mental illness needed care. The experiences that had shaped how I saw myself didn’t disappear as my body changed.

That understanding influences how I approach FTM. I want to talk honestly about transition alongside the other things people may be navigating. Feeling more comfortable in your identity can be deeply important, and you still deserve support with everything else you’re carrying.

The Help That Made Starting Over Possible

While I was homeless in Colorado, I reached back out to Stefany, a friend I’d met in the Navy when I was 18. We’d stayed friends over the years, and I wanted someone to vent to. I was exhausted from waking up sick and spending so much of my time securing drugs.

She wanted to help. I was hesitant at first, but I eventually accepted her offer from a hospital bed, where I was recovering from acute kidney failure and dehydration.

Stefany helped me arrange a sitter for Blade and Gus, find a local detox, and organize transportation. Then she bought me a plane ticket to Ohio, along with four bags for everything I owned.

She welcomed me into her apartment and helped me begin putting my life back together. At 107 pounds, I was very underweight. Sobriety, mental health recovery, nutrition, and getting organized became the work in front of me. A month later, we flew back to Colorado together to bring the dogs home.

I carry that experience into FTM. I know how much can stand between needing help and being able to accept it. The details matter: transportation, somewhere to stay, care for your animals, and someone willing to help you work through the next step. Those are the kinds of practical needs I want this site to take seriously.

Putting Practical Support Into People’s Hands

The Power Bank Project grew from a problem I could help address through my business: people experiencing homelessness often have limited access to safe, reliable places to charge their devices.

A charged phone can help someone stay in contact with loved ones, arrange transportation, manage appointments, and reach services. Flashlights and headlamps need charging, too. Access to electricity is something many people can take for granted until they’re trying to get through a day without it.

Through Dynamic Power Supply, I started the Power Bank Project to provide free power banks to people experiencing homelessness or financial hardship. We mail them to recipients across the United States and distribute them locally around greater Cincinnati. Ten percent of DPS’s monthly profit helps fund the work.

Having needed substantial help myself makes this project personal. I know the difference a practical act of support can make. PBP gives me a way to contribute something concrete, using the business I’ve built and the resources available to me.

That same desire to be useful runs through FTM: helping someone find a resource, make a connection, or take their next step.

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In my own words

What “True Masculinity” Means to Me

“The “true” in Finding True Masculinity means being true to yourself.”

For me, that has involved learning what feels authentic in my own life and questioning the expectations I once thought I had to meet. I used to believe I needed to be a gym buff to be a real man. I placed a lot of importance on having a particular kind of body. Over time, I’ve come to recognize the variety that was there all along: cis and trans men come in different shapes and sizes. There is room for my body among them.

Being seen as a man has also changed how I’m treated. I feel safer moving through the world, especially at night. I’m no longer navigating the same fear of sexual harassment or unwanted attention from men. The respect I receive simply because people perceive me as male feels good, and I recognize it as a privilege. Having experienced life being perceived as female and as male gives me a perspective on that difference that I want to explore honestly.

Some of the moments when I feel most like myself are ordinary ones with Stefany: shopping, running errands, being the driver, opening doors, making decisions, and being respected as a man and a partner. Those everyday experiences carry real meaning for me. I feel comfortable in my place beside her. My understanding of masculinity continues to develop through those experiences. Through FTM, I want to leave room for other trans men and transmasculine people to explore what feels equally honest and meaningful in their own lives.

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Find your starting point

What You’ll Find Here

FTM brings together practical information, personal perspectives, and places to connect. Depending on what brought you here, there are several ways to explore.

My aim across the site is to give you something useful to work with, whether that’s information, a practical resource, another perspective, or a connection.

Research, experience & accountability

How I Approach Information

I bring lived experience and a questioning mind to FTM. My history influences the subjects I cover and the questions I ask. Research, professional guidance, and other people’s experiences help me put that perspective into context.

Experience & evidence

I make a distinction between personal experience, opinion, and evidence. A personal account can reveal something important about someone’s life. Research can help us understand broader patterns, risks, and outcomes. Each has value, and readers should be able to recognize which kind of information they’re looking at.

Sources & changing information

For health and legal topics, I look for established guidance, primary sources, and organizations with relevant knowledge. I care about what a source actually supports, how current it is, and where its limitations lie. Policies change, research develops, and individual circumstances can affect how information applies.

Uncertainty & context

I also want to be clear about uncertainty. Where evidence is limited or experiences vary, that deserves an explanation. I’m interested in giving readers enough context to think through their options and ask useful questions.

Clarity in storytelling

That same clarity matters in storytelling. Personal accounts, commentary, and fictionalized or composite narratives should be identified so readers understand what they’re reading.

Corrections & feedback

FTM is an ongoing project, and corrections are part of maintaining it. If you find something inaccurate, outdated, or missing important context, please contact me. I want this site to remain useful, and that requires a willingness to reconsider, learn, and make changes.

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The everyday life behind the pages

Frank Beyond FTM

I live in Mason, Ohio, with Stefany and our two senior dogs, Mario and Gus. My animals are family, and they’re an important part of the life I’ve worked to build.

Outside FTM, I run Dynamic Power Supply, test products, and create designs under Mind of Frank. Those projects give me different ways to use my curiosity, solve practical problems, and make something of my own. There’s usually another idea waiting for attention.

Some of the things I value most are ordinary: a stable home, time with Stefany, and having our animals around us. After the instability I’ve experienced, those parts of my life mean a great deal to me.

FTM is important to me, and so is the everyday life behind it. The person writing these pages is still learning, managing challenges, building relationships, and figuring things out.

Frank and Stefany smiling together, with Frank wearing green light-up glasses
Frank & StefanyLife together, beyond the blog.
Gus and Mario, two senior black-and-white dogs, looking up from a rug
Mario & GusOur two senior dogs, always family.
Inside the Dynamic Power Supply storage unit, with a DPS sign, boxed inventory, and packing supplies
Creating & buildingA look inside the Dynamic Power Supply storage unit.
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Keep exploring

Connect With Me

I’m glad you found your way here, and I hope something on FTM gives you a useful place to begin.

If you’re looking for practical information or support, explore the resource directory and guides. If you want to ask questions or exchange experiences, visit the community forum.

You’re also welcome to contact me with a resource suggestion, a correction, a story you’d like to share, or an idea for working together. FTM is a growing project, and hearing what readers find useful (and where they need more help) can shape what comes next.

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